Getting divorced means that you will experience many changes in your life, as well as your children. You may have concerns about how your children will cope with this new arrangement, especially if you plan to share parenting time with your ex.
Many children experience the changes that divorce brings – in 2020, for example, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention states that 630,505 couples either got divorced or annulled their marriages. While divorce is common, it may not be easy on your children, but there are steps you can take to help them get through this major change.
Work on your coparenting relationship
Feelings of hurt, anger, betrayal and resentment may still exist following your divorce. But do not let these emotions impact your coparenting arrangement. Commit to effectively coparenting with your former spouse to preserve your children’s best interests.
Limit negativity about your coparent
Your children likely value the relationship they have with you and your ex. For this reason, do not vent your anger or frustrations about your coparent in front of your children.
Communicate openly and honestly
Uncertainty can be difficult for your children to process. Provide as much information as you can to your children about their living arrangements, time spent with both parents and other adjustments, so they feel more informed and confident about what is to come.
It may take time for your children to fully accept and come to terms with your divorce. Be patient with your children during this time and help them process any emotions they experience in the weeks and months to come.