Managing a divorce with children involved is especially difficult. Not only do you have to concern yourself with how you will move forward with your own life after divorce, but you also have to rebuild your children’s lives, as well.
Depending on your ongoing relationship with your ex-spouse, there are many ways to handle this process and protect your children. According to NBC, one living arrangement that many parents are trying is “nesting.”
What is nesting, and how does it work?
“Nesting” is a living situation where the children live permanently in one house, and the parents move in and out according to a schedule. Particularly if the nesting happens in the family home, this means little-to-no disruption of the children’s schedules. They have the same bedroom, attend the same schools and see the same friends. The difference is that only one parent is around at a time.
Nesting is only a viable option if you and your ex-spouse are on good terms with each other. If you and your ex-spouse do not get along, it is unlikely that you will be able to maintain a nesting arrangement.
How long does nesting last?
It is possible to have a “permanent” nesting arrangement, but this is very rare. Particularly if both parents wish to maintain their own separate living environments, nesting can take a financial toll. Additionally, too long spent nesting can give children false hope that their parents will “work it out.”
Nesting is a good, temporary solution to the living arrangement while the divorce is in its initial stages. It gives parents the space they need from each other while allowing children maximum stability.