How can you set boundaries with a narcissistic ex-spouse?

On Behalf of | Jun 30, 2021 | Family Law

Most people do not enter a marriage with the assumption that it may end in a divorce. In fact, most couples dream of the rest of their lives together. Unfortunately, this does not always happen. While divorce is often complex, it becomes more complex when splitting from someone who may be narcissistic.

According to the Huffington Post, divorce with a narcissist may become drawn out. Fortunately, there are ways you can set healthy boundaries for yourself.

Do not try to rationalize with your ex

It is easy to want to argue with your soon-to-be former spouse. You may think that you have the most rational arguments, but your ex will not care. He or she is the center of the universe. Your ex may blame you for any issues with the marriage and will not want to compromise. Your best option is to have a neutral party speak on your behalf. Always keep your guard up when dealing with him or her.

Document and plan everything

Your ex can try to edit messages, emails or other documents. Think ahead and make copies of all communication. You should even record phone calls to ensure that he or she does not edit your words and submit them to the court.

Once you have a strategy, stick with it. If you start to waver in your plan, your ex could try to take advantage of it. Decide what you want to give up and what you cannot compromise on.

Most of all, be forgiving of yourself when dealing with a narcissist. To set the best boundaries, have your support system nearby.